Since getting pregnant there are so many things that I wish I had known before but I feel like people really don’t talk about the hard parts of pregnancy enough. I thought I would share the 10 things that I wish someone had told me before I went through the second trimester of my pregnancy. If you’re trying to get pregnant, in your first trimester or not yet pregnant but thinking it might happen one day at some point in the future, take note because it is not always the magical, blissful journey that you might expect it to be!
- Tiredness – that energy burst that everyone talks about, it’s not guaranteed. I’m still waiting for mine to come, maybe it happened for you and if so congratulations, enjoy being productive whilst I lay here and nap.
- Morning sickness (which you have probably already found out isn’t just a morning thing) is also not just a first trimester thing. I didn’t stop being sick until around 22 weeks and I still feel sick most days.
- The bigger you get, the more it annoys you when people point out how big you are. Yes, I know I look like I’m carrying more than one baby, I know I can’t fit through small gaps any more, I KNOW I’M HUGE!
- Heat is not your friend. Pregnant women feel heat more because of the increased blood flow (or something like that, I am no scientist so don’t fact check me) so being pregnant during any kind of heat is zero fun. My best advice is to find a cool, dark room and hide.
- As exciting as it is to feel your baby move more, you’re probably going to spend a lot more time questioning whether you’ve felt your baby move today and panicking every time you can’t feel baby moving around. Chances are everything is okay and your child is just testing you already but it’s always worth getting checked out just to make sure everything is as it should be.
- It’s not just your belly getting bigger. Your boobs, bum, feet, legs, face and arms are all getting bigger too and there’s nothing you can do about it!
- Your emotions are going to be all over the place like you’ve never felt before. Think about when you’re on or due on your period and you get sad or angry over nothing, now times that feeling by about a thousand. I’ve shouted and cried at my boyfriend so many times and he’s literally not been doing anything wrong but I just cannot quelle my emotions!
- Showering gets hard. This may just be me but I can barely stand up for long enough to shower because I’m so tired and my legs feel like they cannot handle it. I genuinely have to have a sit down after a shower to recover! Baths are definitely my favourite at the moment although trying to get out of the bath when you’re done looks somewhat like a large hippo trying to get out of a deep puddle, it’s not cute.
- Leaking everywhere. This may be TMI but there’s a lot of fluids that are coming out of a pregnant woman’s body and it is not fun. I always figured that there is no milk (or colostrum as I have recently learnt) until the baby is born but boy was I wrong. Some amount of leakage in your underwear is also normal but make sure you check with a midwife if you are concerned.
- Pregnancy isn’t for everyone. This is really hard to say because I know there’s a million women who would give anything to get pregnant and I have so much respect for their strength but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with your own pregnancy. It’s difficult, tiring, emotional and just an all around hard rollercoaster to be on. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with admitting that you’re not enjoying pregnancy and I don’t think it means that you love your baby any less. I love my baby more than I thought I could ever love someone that I haven’t met yet, but it doesn’t mean that I enjoy her elbowing me in the ribs or kicking my bladder constantly and that’s okay.
Having said all of the above, pregnancy is an amazing journey and I love my baby so much already. I think it’s incredible that the human body can create a whole person from the smallest little egg and I just cannot wait to meet our daughter and find out who she’s going to be.
What do you wish you had known before your second trimester?
Love, Alice and bump x